Comparison: Why It's a Problem & What to Do About It

I’m here today to talk to you about a common disease that affects nearly every one of us…particularly when you’re starting out with your business.

I refer to this as a disease because it infiltrates your mind and can stand in the way of your health & happiness when left completely unchecked. It’s called Comparisitis, the disease of comparison.

Okay, in all seriousness, it is truly something that needs to be addressed.

I’m not here to tell you that any type of comparison is a complete “no-no.” In fact, I get what the point of it is in the beginning. It starts off pretty innocently. You are verifying if your business idea is viable, if demand is there, how it could become profitable and what kind of ideas and inspirations you can generate.  Taken step further, who can you sort of emulate or look up to?

That’s fine and all, but the problem is that it often gets way of hand from that point on and quickly spirals into something unhealthy, demotivating or even destructive to you success.

You see, sometimes the act of comparison can easily allow you to fool yourself into thinking other things that stem from feelings of inadequacy, lack and I’m-not-ready-yet-ness.

It also completely disregards a couple of critical factors:

1.     There are clients out there for all of us. You may resonate with others (the way you speak, your style of coaching, your branding) in a way that the people to whom you are comparing yourself to do not. The truth is, no one can do you the way that you can.

2.     It assumes that we’re all at the same level. When you compare incomes, stages of progress within a business, etc. you are disregarding the fact the people to whom you are comparing yourself to are just starting out as well.

3.     Often times, it leads us down a path of feeling in a place of LACK. Meaning, you often begin looking at what you do not have, what you can’t do or what you are missing. Instead of what you are, what you can do and what you have to offer right now.

Here’s a good way to tell if comparison is not productive:

·      How is looking at others making you feel?

·      What thoughts are coming up for you? Are they positive or negative?

·      After comparing yourself, do you feel like you are no longer ready? Do you feel like you should actually not take action?

If you answer yes to any of these, your best bet is to…GO FOR IT!

XO, Swati